Jennifer Lopez says that even though her partners have been very different people, she has made the same mistakes with all of them. Lopez, who is reportedly heading towards a divorce from Ben Affleck, says she often makes mistakes in relationships. While she doesn’t completely blame herself for relationships failing, she says she has encountered the same problem almost every time. She shares how she learned to overcome it.
Jennifer Lopez says she often makes mistakes with her partners
While still married to Marc Anthony, Lopez opened up about her past relationships in a conversation with Vanity Fair. She admitted that in her previous relationships with people like Affleck and Sean “Diddy” Combs, she wasn’t close enough to herself.
“I didn’t know who I was, what I wanted, what I deserved, what I needed,” she said. “For me, it was all about other people and that’s where I made the mistake. It wasn’t even their fault, it was my fault. I needed to get to a point where I could say: I know what I want, I know what I need, I can’t let you do this, I can’t let this happen, I can’t let that happen.”
After this discovery, Lopez said she learned to put herself first. She no longer wanted to put up with relationships that weren’t right for her.
“Even when I feel bad about myself, I always try to remember that I’m worth more than this, that I’m better than this, that I’m doing something wrong with myself,” she said. “You deserve better, all those things you have to tell yourself to get through the tough times.”
Jennifer Lopez says she learned to prioritize her needs over those of her partner
Lopez realized she needed to work on her relationship with herself, which was more important to her than any romantic relationship.
“When it comes to love and relationships, what I’ve learned now is that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself,” she said. “It took me a long time to get to that point, but I finally feel like I understand it.”
She doesn’t want to be in a relationship until she is clearer about who she is and what she wants.
“It’s not anybody else’s fault, but I couldn’t be okay in any relationship until I was more in touch with who I was, what I needed and what I wanted,” she said. “And getting to that point for me was a real journey, a real search, where I realized that the primary relationship I needed to have and true love had to be with myself.”
How many times has Jennifer Lopez been married?
Shortly after making these comments to Vanity Fair, Lopez announced that she was ending her marriage to Anthony. It was her third husband and her longest marriage.
In 1997, Lopez married actor and producer Ojai Noa. They divorced less than a year later.
In 2001, Lopez married dancer Cris Judd after meeting him on the set of her music video for “Love Don’t Cost a Thing.” This was another short-lived marriage for Lopez. The couple separated in 2002 and finalized their divorce in 2003. She was engaged to Affleck during that time.
After her split from Anthony, Lopez became engaged to Alex Rodriguez, but they never married. Shortly after their engagement ended, Lopez became involved with Affleck. The couple tied the knot in 2022.
