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Cody Rigsby, a famous Peloton instructor who teaches relationship advice in his classes, says his advice comes from reflecting on his personal mistakes.
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One of the mistakes was dating someone who wanted a monogamous relationship even though Rigsby didn’t want one.
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He told Insider that he doesn’t regret the relationship or the breakup because it led him to be more intentional about his love life.
Leading Peloton cycling instructor Cody Rigsby wishes people would rush into relationships less and date more intentionally, as he himself has previously been in a non-aligned relationship.
She said ending that relationship, in which her ex wanted to be monogamous while Rigsby wanted to be in an open relationship, was painful but worth it because it led to greater clarity in dating. That was six years ago, Rigsby, who is 36 years old, told Insider.
Since then, Rigsby has become known for shouting self-love mantras and relationship advice to his fans during his walks. Now, he’s preparing to publish even more relationship wisdom in his first book, “XOXO, Cody: An Opinionated Homosexual’s Guide to Self-Love, Relationships, and Tactful Pettiness,” out September 12.
Rigsby told Insider that his dating life has historically been “messy” because he was still getting to know himself and what he was looking for in a partner. But that’s exactly why he believes people should trust what he has to say.
“I’m not an expert and I don’t have advice to give because I’ve always been successful at it. I have advice to give because I’ve failed and because I’ve learned from it,” Rigsby told Insider. during an interview about his partnership with mobile gaming app Solitaire Grand Harvest.
When it came time to end their relationship six years ago, for example, Rigsby said he learned that love is not always enough for a healthy bond.
He told Insider that he and his ex were deeply in love, but were “not compatible” because, fundamentally, they needed different relationship styles to be happy.
Immediately after the breakup, Rigsby said she experienced “complicated” feelings that included sadness, guilt, and guilt. There were times when he said he wanted to “villainize” his ex, and other times he wanted to blame himself for the end of their relationship.
But as time went on, Rigsby said he accepted the reality that “you can’t change someone and you shouldn’t ask someone to change.”
Now, Rigsby often reminds his Peloton students of the hard-learned lesson, telling them, “I think it’s better to accept than to try to change someone,” he said.
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